The Good Girl Unleashed with Monique Carmela

110: How To Build Trust Within Yourself So That You Can Trust Others, Feel Safe To Let Love In & Build Conscious Relationships

Recently I held a conversation on Inner Child Healing & Conscious Relationships (LISTEN TO IT HERE) and I received the question “How do I trust a man and create safe, conscious love” and I felt called to speak to this topic directly as it is something I have been meaning to speak to for some time as it has been coming up a lot in feedback I have received from people who have opted in for my free ebook, Regulate (Get Your Copy Here).
It’s also an area I struggled with for many years and has been a fascinating journey uncovering where this stems from, the root cause of this pattern, the fears, conditioning and beliefs and liberating myself from this protection.
Yes… Protection.
That is what we are doing here. When we don’t feel safe, we protect and we do this in a number of ways that may not make logical sense to our present self but it’s a pattern that was developed earlier on in life that has been practiced over years and decades, strengthening this pattern, making it harder to shift it and let love in.
In today's episode, I expand upon my recent blog post, How do I trust a man and create safe, conscious love?, trusting another requires you to trust yourself and be able to discern who is trustworthy to you, it requires you to work through what at the root of this challenge, what is preventing you from trusting, and it will require you to come into self-honouring and self-expression.
In order for the parts of you that are not allowing you to trust, let love in and create conscious love, to stop hijacking the system and allow you to have the relationship you desire, they must feel safe and in order to feel safe they must be able to trust you and feel safe within you, to know that YOU have got their back.
If you resonate with this conversation and with what I share on this podcast, I invite you to join me for 12 weeks inside The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself where I will support you more deeply in putting what we explore in this podcast into practice so you can have the life and relationships you deeply desire.
 
Learn more about The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself here
Submit Your Questions to me at info@moniquecarmela.com
 
Much Love
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109: Guided Meditation & Transmission: Drop Into Your Body & The Present Moment, Exploring Your Unique Authentic Expression

Opening Guided Meditation & Transmission from my recent program, Confidence To Express Yourself
Guided Meditation to support you to drop into your body and into the present moment. Transmission on connecting to your unique, authentic expression and giving yourself permission to fully express yourself in all areas of your life.
Your expression is unique to you and will look and feel differently in different areas of your life. This transmission is about letting go of the expectations around what your fullest expression should be, should like, should feel like and exploring what is truly authentic to you.
I hope you enjoy this and find it supportive for you on your journey to expressing authentically and unapologetically.
Learn more about the full program, Confidence To Express here:
https://embody.moniquecarmela.com/express

108: Inner Child & Conscious Relationships Q&A Session: Forgiveness, Meeting Your Needs, Break Free From Childhood Patterns

Following Monday's conversation on Inner Child Healing & Consious Relationships, I held a Q&A session to speak more directly to your questions and reflections to support you more deeply on your journey to building the deeply connected, harmonious, conscious relationships you deeply desire.
In today's episode we are exploring forgiveness, the inner child healing journey and often we should be doing this work. As well as expressing, prioritising, and meeting your needs. I speak a bit about belief systems and how to alchemise your past and transform belief systems How to recognise childhood patterns, inner children, break free from childhood patterns and overcome fears.
I wasn't able to get through all the reflections, shares and questions today and will continue to work my way through all of these to support you. A big theme that showed up on Monday was Trust, how do I trust men, how do I trust myself and what does trusting self even mean... And so I will be doing an episode completely on building trust with self and in relationships.
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If you are ready to delve deeper on this journey together, I invite you to join me for 12 weeks inside The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself, a journey of self-discovery, rebirth and reconnection.
For the Woman who is ready to reconnect to her authentic self and cultivate UNSHAKEABLE self-love and acceptance so she can create the life and deeply connected, harmonious relationships she truly desires.
For everyone who joins by this Friday, you will also receive my Confidence To Express Program, valued at $777, absolutely free and so much more...
PLUS the next 4 enrolments will receive 3x 1:1 coaching sessions (Valued at $1500)
Learn more about The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself here
Learn more about The Confidence To Express Yourself Program here

107: Inner Child Healing & Conscious Relationships; Build & Nurture Deeply Connected, Harmonious Relationships

Do you desire deep connection, love, and intimacy in your relationship? To experience MAGIC, passion, and aliveness with your beloved? Or perhaps call in your dream partner who deeply aligns with you, your truth, and your values... 

 
In this conversation, we explore the impact that childhood wounding, past trauma, and painful experiences have on your current relationships and how healing your inner child will support you in building conscious, harmonious, and deeply connected relationships, first and foremost with yourself so that you can THRIVE in life and your relationships, and receive the love you deserve!
 
Links & Further Resources:Join our Facebook Community Here Get the Regulate Ebook hereGet the App - Embodied Love App from the App Store and get instant access to my Integration Program
 
For anyone who is ready to delve deeper on this journey together, I invite you to join me for 12 weeks inside The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself, A 12-week journey of self-discovery, rebirth and reconnection.
For the Woman who is ready to reconnect to her authentic self and cultivate UNSHAKEABLE self-love and acceptance so she can create the life and deeply connected, harmonious relationships she truly desires.
Learn More Here
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106: Self-Love, A Journey of Strengthening Your Relationship To Yourself, Setting Boundaries & Leading From Your Heart with Rashmi

Today I am joined by Rashmi from @themindsolace and delve into the realms of self-love and rebuilding your relationship with yourself. 
I often say "You are the one you are doing life with" and you must honor that relationship, prioritize your needs, and fill up your cup in order to abundantly give and support your loved ones and your community. You cannot give from an empty cup, this leads to burnout, exhaustion, resentment, stress, dis-ease, and often the breakdown of our relationships.
By taking care of you, you will be much better equipped to support others. In this conversation, we explore this concept and so much more, we go into why self-love and filling up your cup is so important and how it will actually benefit those around you.
We also go into the importance of setting boundaries, and how this will also benefit not only you but those around you. You become a walking permission slip for others to love themselves, meet their own needs, set boundaries, and become self-responsible.
When we are constantly giving and prioritizing the needs of others, we are actually disempowering ourselves and them. 
 
This episode supports you in shifting your mindset and opening the pathway to self-love, self-honoring, and self-respect that will support you in bringing more ease, harmony, and connection into your life and relationships. We offer a variety of tips and resources to support you on your journey as well.
 
The Sacred Art of Loving Yourself
For the Woman who is ready to reconnect to her authentic self and cultivate UNSHAKEABLE self-love and acceptance so she can create the life she truly desires.
Learn more: https://embody.moniquecarmela.com/saly
 
"Highly recommend Moniques Sacred Art of Loving Yourself course!
 
It is the first course I've done where it really gave me the tools to start to get to the root causes for who I am and then the practices to become more of who I want to be. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!! 
 
The support I have received has been amazing. I cant thank you enough Monique. This work is changing my life!"
 
~ Justine Mitchell
 
 
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About Rashmi
A compassionate Life Coach, Wellbeing Expert, and Mindfulness Mentor, as well as the visionary founder of The Mind Solace.
Through her bespoke life coaching services, Rashmi empowers individuals to embark on transformative journeys tailored to their unique needs, breaking free from old unhealthy patterns and fostering authentic growth more aligned to their inner world. Rashmi extends her impact through engaging wellbeing workshops held at wellness festivals & corporate settings. Here, she shares invaluable insights and practical strategies, helping participants prioritize their health and productivity with ease.
Building an authentic, powerful, loving, and healthy relationship with yourself reflects in other areas of life - professional and personal.
Connect with Rashmi: Website | Instagram
 
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105: Family Dynamics, Conditioning, Expectations & Getting Your Needs Met in Relationships with Amberlee Rose

In today's conversation Amberlee and I explore how our childhood experiences and relationships with our original caregivers can impact our current relationships and ways of relating.
There is often deeply ingrained conditioning that many of us hold around what it means to be a man, a woman, a mother, and other labels we put on ourselves or others put on us.
Often we see the man as the savior, the breadwinner or provider, the handyman, and there are roles and responsibilities that are put on the man. There's often the saying that goes "Be a man" or "Man up" which puts men into a box and suppresses different parts of them, and can also be incredibly emasculating, causing them to feel less than or not good enough if they don't meet the expectations of what it means to be a man.
For women, often there is the conditioning around being the homemaker, people pleasing, self-sacrificing, over-giving, putting everyone else first, her needs come last or not at all, she's only to speak when spoken to, be the good girl, the nice girl, stay inside the lines. There are also roles and responsibilities, like cooking and cleaning, meeting the man's sexual needs.
And this all comes not only from what was mirrored to us in childhood from our caregivers, but society as well.
We can become incredibly lost and confused and wonder who am I. It significantly impacts our relationships and you may find yourself unhappy or unsatisfied in your relationship, or a lot of conflict arising.
In this conversation we explore all of this and so much more with the intention to support you in creating new ways of relating, connecting and being in harmony in your relationship. Discovering what works for you, what kind of relationship you desire and how to create that. How to get your needs met and not necessarily by your partner but by you.
A truly powerful conversation, inspired by our own personal journeys.
 
We would LOVE to hear your feedback, what resonates, and any questions you have or areas you would like us to delve deeper into. We will also be opening the conversation inside The Woman Ascending Facebook Group to explore this conversation more deeply.
 
Ready to delve deeper into this conversation, strengthen your self-confidence, expand your ability to express yourself, meet your own needs, set boundaries and honor your YES and your NO???
To LIBERATE your expression, shift your self-talk, and consciously create the life and relationships you desire...
Join Amberlee and me in our upcoming LIVE program, The Confidence To Express Yourself, the journey begins this Saturday.
Learn more: https://embody.moniquecarmela.com/express
 
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Amberlee Rose
Sacral Somatics Practitioner & Devotee to the divine feminine. She supports women to come into a loving and sacred relationship with their bodies, sexuality, and innate feminine essence.
Her passion is to guide women through the unraveling of social conditioning, old belief systems, and ancestral patterning that have kept them frozen, numb, and disconnected from life.
Acting as a loving witness, she assists women in cultivating safety in the body, moving through stored tension, guilt, and shame, and creating more spaciousness for pleasure and sensitivity.
The core foundation of her work is based around the reclamation and integration of your full emotional and erotic being so you can move through life guided by your innate wisdom, power, and pleasure.
w: https://www.templeofrose.com  |  Instagram
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104: Understanding Your Human Design & Soul Blueprint, & Giving Yourself Permission To Be Yourself with Kirsten Morrison

"Human Design is your unique energetic blueprint.
Consider it like the user manual for your soul. Human Design gives us a permission slip to be completely ourselves, trust in our way and deeply understand what we’re here for. It illuminates our strengths, gifts, wisdom and purpose. It shows us how we are here to move through the world and what we came to contribute. And in a world that is constantly trying to tell us how to be - it allows you to be fully seen, understood and feel empowered in your uniqueness." - Kirsten Morrison
 
I discovered Human Design in 2020 and it absolutely blew my mind but I felt resistance to delve deeper and it was soon put on the back burner. I rediscovered Human Design later in the year where I began delving a little deeper and following different people like Kirsten to learn more. But it was last year that Human Design really leaped out at me and I knew I had to jump in.
Human Design for me is one of the BIGGEST permission slip to be yourself and come back to self-honouring and living in alignment. It is the manual for living authentically, unapologetically and in alignment with who you truly are.
When you live in alignment it is of the greatest service to yourself and all of those around you as well, you become the walking permission slip for others to also live in alignment and together we rise and thrive, cheering each other on along the way.
In today's episode, I am joined by Human Design Mentor, Kirsten Morrison, who shares with us an overview of what Human Design is, the 5 energy types and we also delve into the emotional authority and how to ride the waves of our emotions.
A potent conversation that I am so excited to share with you.
Since the end of last year I began including a Human Design Reading with all of my 1:1 Coaching Packages as I believe this is essential to living in alignment and thriving in all areas of life which is what I am here to support you with. Learn more about working together here
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Kirsten Morrison
Human Design + Empowerment Mentor guiding purpose-driven women to activate their legacy identity and be fully seen and confident in expressing their soul gifts.
She is the host of the EXPRESSED. podcast, Human Design Educator, an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, Breathwork Facilitator and alchemises it all together to work on a mind, body and soul transformation. It's her mission to support women to remember their one-of-a-kind brilliance and maximise their potential in the pursuit of their purpose. 
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103: The Confidence To Be Yourself Part 2: The Connection Between Your Throat and Sacral/Pelvis

Your Voice Creates Your Reality (That includes your internal self-talk) + The Connection between your throat and sacral/pelvis and how your voice can constrict or expand your pleasure...
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Ready to delve deeper into this work, to build the confidence to BE and express yourself, to live in alignment and experience more joy, pleasure and fulfillment...
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Deep Pleasure
(Enrollment Closes This Sunday!!!)
DEEP PLEASURE WILL SUPPORT YOU TO...
❥ Connect to your body & expand your capacity to feel deep pleasure, joy & org*smic bliss
❥ Cultivate inner safety SO THAT YOU CAN be authentically & unapologetically yourself & FEEL CONFIDENT to express yourself
❥ Feel more connection, intimacy & aliveness
❥ Create the life & RELATIONSHIPS you deeply desire!
❥ Heal from past experiences, trauma & wounding & create space for incredible new experiences you maybe didn't even know was possible...
ENROL HERE: https://embody.moniquecarmela.com/deep-pleasure
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Confidence To Express 
(Currently on Early Bird Special for ONLY $333 Limited time only, or FREE when you join Deep Pleasure)
❥ Express yourself confidently, authentically and unapologetically
❥ Master your emotions and learn how to lean into both the "good" and the uncomfortable emotions
❥ Access your unique creativity and live more joyfully, passionately and embodied
❥ Be able to ask for what you need, express your desires, set boundaries and go after what you really want in life and your relationships
❥ Connect to your body's wisdom and guidance and learn how to know and honour your yes and your no.
ENROL HERE: https://embody.moniquecarmela.com/express
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102: The Confidence To Be Yourself Part 1: Transforming Your Self-Talk Will Transform Your Life

The intention of this mini-series is to shift self-talk and feel confident and empowered to be our authentic selves, to liberate the voice and experience the power of your voice
 
Part 1: where focus goes energy flows. The impact of self-criticism, and the power of your voice/self-talk.
you are creating your reality every moment, the way you speak, what you say out loud and silently in your mind
if you are criticising yourself and putting yourself down you are creating more of that experience, you will see more and more evidence to validate these beliefs about yourself
you may experience anxiety around others thinking/saying these things about you
You may experience waves of depression, numbing out, disassociating and distracting yourself, just getting through life
You are missing out on the beauty and magic of this life experience
To create the life and relationships you deeply desire, to experience abundance, love, joy, connection, fulfillment, excitement, and all the goodness, you gotta go within and address what’s holding you back, what's keeping you in patterns of negative self-talk and disconnection but you must also expand your capacity to be in the goodness.
In order to live the life we desire we must become aware of how we are speaking to ourselves and others and where this stems from…
 
But don’t just bypass through positive self-talk/affirmations, do the inner work required to integrate the parts of you that believe the criticism otherwise you’re just sweeping stuff under the rug and your life won’t change in the way you desire.
 
Another piece to the puzzle is expanding your capacity to be in the goodness, if negativity and criticism is your familiar, jumping to positivity and self-love will feel like a leap and you’ll find yourself reverting back to old ways leading to feelings of defeat and disappointment…
 
it’s about pendulating and meeting and honouring what is present without buying into it as being the absolute truth.
 
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For the Woman who is ready to connect to herself, her body and her pleasure in a deeply loving way so that she can experience deep pleasure, tap into her power, and truly enjoy life.
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101: From Scarcity to Abundance, Wealth Consciousness, & Creating Your Dream Life with Dasha Barsukova, Vision Doula

"Life is about the journey, not the destination"
We can often get so caught up in what we don't have, where we aren't, what we have NOT achieved, and what's lacking in ourselves and our lives that we completely miss the beauty, abundance, and magic that's all around us, all of the time.
In this potent conversation with @iamdashabarsukova we go deeeep into understanding what is keeping people stuck in scarcity and blocking them from experiencing the abundance that is available to all of us right here, right now.
Awareness is the gateway to your transformation and by bringing awareness to what you're experiencing and what is creating that experience you have the opportunity to reclaim your power, to shift your experience, and consciously create more of what you want.
But it's not just about getting what you want, it's not about trying to control life or force things to happen in a certain way. For me, it's about bringing more joy, playfulness, and compassion into your human experience.
It's about embracing it all, loving it all, loving the journey, and how it all divinely unfolds... You may not get what you want when you want it, but you WILL get what you need.
Challenges help us grow and evolve and access more than we even knew was possible. Life will not stop throwing you new challenges and initiations but you CAN learn to thrive and remain anchored into abundance every step of the way.
Here's to having the most MAGICAL, wild, juicy, messy, and joyful human experience. Here's to having it ALL. The Universe always has your back, you are ALWAYS taken care of, all ways.
We would LOVE to hear your feedback and any questions you have, email me at info@moniquecarmela.com or DM me on FB/IG
Learn more about working with Monique here
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Dasha Barsukova
Vision Doula, someone who helps YOU birth your craziest and wildest dreams into reality.
After completing a double major in psychology at university. I embarked on a mysticism journey into Shamanism and Tantra. Since then I have become a certified Tantric Approach Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, Women’s Work Facilitator, Yoga Teacher, Biodynamic Trauma Release Breathwork Facilitator, Somatic Embodiment Dance Facilitator, a Universal Tao Instructor (specialising in yoni eggs), I have worked with Betty Martin, the creator of the Wheel of Consent, and I studied magic and alchemy with William Whitecloud. 
My deepest desire is to help people see that miracles and magic are real and that they can too live an extraordinary life.
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Taoism / 6 Healing Practice | Dasha’s Money Course Waiting List | Beliefs Repatterning Course
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