The Good Girl Unleashed with Monique Carmela

131: Cultivating Inner Safety & Secure Attachment Within Yourself, ESSENTIAL for Thriving In Life & Relationships

Creating safety in your nervous system is essential for thriving in your life and relationships. In this episode we explore what it means to cultivate inner safety, how it impacts your life and how to actually do it.
You may know the concept of Attachment Styles, this is how we move toward secure attachment within ourselves which will shift how you show up in life and in your relationship so that you can experience deep connection, love, and exquisite intimacy.
 
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130: The Fear Of Falling Apart, The Need To Hold It All Together & How To Finally LET GO & Experience Freedom

In my recent workshop, DEVOTION To Love, we spoke about the fear of letting go of control and this need to gold it all together, to stay in control and keep everything at bay and the impact of this.
I had a beautiful client reach out and share with me her experience around this and feeling stuck in survival just getting through the day but feeling this inevitable SNAP coming, and I felt called to share my response to this as I know she is not alone in this, so many of us fear this inevitable snap and are living in a state of survival.
I desire more for all of us, I desire for us all to THRIVE in our lives and relationships, and I believe it's often this inevitable snap that allows the crumbling and release of control that allows for the rebirth of your true self.
If we can allow this crumbling to take place we can rebuild in a deeply authentic way and move toward living in alignment with who we truly are.
This crumbling and letting go of control can be challenging, scary and confronting and this is why I always recommend working with a mentor or coach that you resonate with to support you through the process.
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129: Liberating Your Authentic Self & Fullest Expression Through The Power Of Play with Emmajane Love

Today I am joined by Emmajane Love, the Queen of Play and the Mistress of Games, exploring the power of play, self-expression, and following the magnetic pull of what lights you the f*** up.
Emmajane shares her story from being a good girl and shut down in her play, self-expression, and sexuality, and her journey of liberation and what supported her to heal from burnout and live in alignment.
Emmajane's storytelling connects deep into the heart and soul, showing you what's truly possible when you listen to and follow the magnetic pull, when you dare to meet your edge and go for what you truly desire.
So often we get caught in the Good Girl box, doing what we think we should, what we think others want us to do instead of following our heart's desire, our true path, what lights us up.
What comes up for you when you think about taking the path that YOU deeply desire rather than the one that was laid out for you, the one that everyone expects you to...
Often fear will come up, stories that want to stop you, your protectors come out to protect you but it's these stories that are stopping you from living your truth, living in your joy, experiencing the FULLNESS of you and this human experience.
This is your invitation to choose your path and follow what lights you the f*** up, meet that edge and GO FOR IT!!!
We are only here for a handful of years, let's make the most of them.
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Meet Emmajane Love, also known as EJ - the Queen of Play and the Mistress of Games! EJ left a decade-long corporate management career in 2009 to venture into the fields of sexuality and relationships and became an International Bestselling Author, Speaker and Facilitator.
However in 2019, after many years of speaking and facilitating across Australia and internationally and her work being featured in media across the globe, EJ hit burnout and she realised that she was wearing high achiever and caretaker masks and completely disconnected from her true self. This dark knight of the soul sparked a deep journey of rediscovery, where she found improv, dance performance, creativity, somatics, nervous system work and authentic relating.
This new path revealed the crucial missing piece to her success and fulfillment - the power of play!
Today, EJ offers transformative trainings, events and mentorship based around play that helps people connect to and express their true selves, regulate their nervous systems and express themselves more freely so that they can experience deep connection and intimacy.
And let's not forget EJ's secret sauce – her deep, vulnerable stories that captivate like a page-turning novel and teaching people how to play transformative games that bring out the parts of themselves that are longing to be seen and expressed! So whether you read her book, attend one of her events or talks be ready for an exploration and adventure into the depths of who you are and to discover what it truly means to be human!
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128: Devotion To Love, Cultivating Self-Love, Trust, & Inner Safety, Devotion To Your Path, Your Truth, Your Self

Earlier this week I held a POWERFUL workshop, DEVOTION To Love, we went beyond the mind, deep into the body, anchoring in deep self-love, acceptance and DEVOTION to your path, your journey, your truth, and yourself.
Bringing new awareness to what blocks us from experiencing love and acceptance, why we self-sabotage and protect ourselves and how this can shut down our ability to feel, experience and receive love, from ourselves and others.
And shifting this to open your heart to love and devote yourself to coming home to your true essence, Love. In this episode, I share some of the key pieces we explored in the workshop.
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127: This is happening FOR you, the healing journey, my VITA experience with Layla Martin, devotion to love

What I have noticed for myself and through working with others is that we can get sucked into the story of our experience we miss out on the gold, like we're in the eye of the storm, too close to see the bigger picture.
It can be scary and incredibly uncomfortable, especially when navigating it all alone. I have been there.
Since doing the VITA Coaching Program with Layla Martin last year, I have noticed how much more resilient, open and receptive I have become, how much more trust I have and how much easier it is for me to surrender, feel and express myself.
The coaching sessions I received were next level and completely changed my life, I will ALWAYS work with a coach since the VITA program, I experienced on an even deeper level how ESSENTIAL it is to have this support.
Recently I became unwell and it was incredibly fascinating to witness how interconnected this cold was with the deeper healing that was at play. I was releasing such deep ancestral pain, suffering and beliefs that have been holding me back from allowing myself to fully shine and be seen.
So often we can miss the golden wisdom available to us because we just rush it off as an inconvenience, "Oh I'm sick, I caught a bug" and we distract ourselves with food and netflix and take the medication, anything to get rid of the discomfort rather than leaning into the discomfort and experiencing deep healing and transformation.
When you embark on this journey of healing, growth and awakening, you will be taken through intense initiations, they can be confronting and uncomfortable but what's on the other side will blow your frickin' mind and heart wide open.
This is the journey home to yourself.It's absolutely wild.
 
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126: Sxx Magick & Embodied Manifestation with Jannine MacKinnon, Bringing Your Heart's Desires To Life

Today I am joined by the beautiful Jannine MacKinnon for another deep, POTENT, and juicy conversation on manifestation and how working with sxxual energy and pleasure can support the manifestation process.
At the beginning of our journey we both felt we were banging our heads against the wall trying to force manifestation to happen, stuck in the doing mode, trying to control the process.
In this episode, we share about our personal journey to figuring out the manifestation equation and how we have brought our heart's desire to life through doing the deeper inner work, and through practicing sxx magick and embodied manifestation practices and rituals.
We also offer suggestions and practices to support you in getting started so you can bring your heart's desires to fruition too. I am so excited for you to DIVE in and receive this magical transmission.
 
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Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, supports moms in thriving as their most radiant and happy selves. Through using tools like breathwork, inner child healing, pleasure practices, and approachable rituals, she creates a pathway for holistic, long-lasting transformation in building confidence, connecting to your authenticity, awakening to pleasure, trusting your intuition, and softening into your feminine energy.
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125: Play As Medicine with Kristin Mathes, How Perfectionism Holds Us Back From The Enjoyment Of Life & How To Lean Into More Play

In this conversation, we explore how perfectionism holds us back from the enjoyment of life & how to lean into more play, pleasure and joy in our lives, to listen to the wisdom of our bodies and reconnect to our innocence, our true essence, and soften into the waves of life.
Play As Medicine, offers suggestions and invitations to support you in reconnecting to your childlike innocence and play and explores how we can reduce the feeling of heaviness, contraction, and resistance on the healing journey and bring more lightness and playfulness that will support you to heal and integrate on a deep level and return home to wholeness, authenticity, and freedom.
 
 
Kristin Mathes, LCSW is a licensed trauma informed, somatic therapist, smiley surfer with a soul connection to nature who runs her therapy practice, Emerge Surf and Somatic Therapy while living in Costa Rica. Kristin supports women in healing from trauma, PTSD, and anxiety by reconnecting to the wisdom of our bodies, our communities, and (re) discovering personal freedom. She's a trained surf therapy facilitator by Groundswell Community Project the first-ever surf therapy training program approved by a therapy association.  She believes traveling and trying new things is a great way to come home to ourselves.
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124: The Transition Portal | How To Move Through Transitions & Seasons Of Life With More Ease & Loving Presence

Exploring the concept of transitions, transitioning through life and through the different seasons we all go through.
This episode aims to support you in deepening your capacity to hold space for yourself as you move through these transitions.
We all experience the transition portal a little differently. You may notice grief as you let go of the old, fear and excitement as you contemplate what's to come, confusion if you're unsure of what's happening, doubt, inspiration, readiness, longing, desire... just a few things that could come up.
Transitioning is shifting from what you have known into something new... the unknown.
This can be scary and uncomfortable and can stir many different emotions, sometimes we feel like we are ping-ponging, up and down, happy to sad, excited to fearful...
For me, transitions have more often than not been scary and brought a lot of anxiety, resistance, and fight. Not because I didn't want to transition but because I didn't know how to be with the intensity of the portal, the emotions, the sensations, and the fear of the unknown.
There is comfort in the known... even if the known is uncomfortable, there is a sense of safety being in the known.
But part of us longs for more, longs for this transition, longs for what's on the other side. The portal can feel dark and sometimes long... Like when will I come out the other side, can I just get there now, how much longer do I have to feel this...
The unknowing of "how long will this take" can be excruciating, and we are often looking, searching for "what do I have to do", rather than asking the question "what is here for me", "How can I surrender into this portal"
Many of us fight the transition like fighting the waves of the ocean, and eventually, we get dunked by the waves... This can feel overwhelming, but when we learn to lean back and surrender to the waves, we begin to ride the waves and over time we learn how to surf the waves.
In this episode, I offer insight and practices to support you as you move through the Transition Portal.
 
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123: Ending Cycles Of Self-Judgment, Sacred Union Of Divine Masculine & Feminine, A Devotion To Loving All

Often on the healing journey, we find ourselves on a mission to fix ourselves, coming from a deep belief that we are broken in some way.
This idea that if I fix myself, if I heal all the things, if I find this perfect balance of masculine/feminine, or whatever it is we think we need, we will be whole, happy, finally deserve or be worthy of and receive the love, acceptance and belonging we have craved for most of our lives.
But if you’re leading from a place of I need to fix me, you are actually signaling to yourself that there is something wrong with you, that you’re not loveable as you are and therefore must contort and change yourself in order to be loveable.
So you get caught in this trap of fixing, not feeling good enough, fixing something else, still not good enough, desperately searching for something or someone that will fix you so that you can finally have the love or the life you deeply desire.
 
Today I want to explore the idea around masculine and feminine energies, being too little or too much of one or the other, desperately trying to find some perfect balance, as if this would lead to something in particular…
 
Can you relate?
Relate to feeling too much or too little or something, trying to find some form of perfect, whether consciously or unconsciously but constantly coming up short… Like nothing is working, the feeling you must be doing something wrong, when will I finally find that perfect balance so I can have x y z...
 
I was caught in this self-judgment cycle many times on my journey and more recently noticed how heavily I felt I was in my masculine energy, it didn’t feel safe to be in my feminine energy, and in that pursuit to create more balance I found myself wronging, judging and shaming myself for being too masculine, and my being too masculine must be the reason I was having challenges in business, my relationship, motherhood, and really all areas of life…
I began to glorify the feminine and abandon my masculine, only shutting myself down more rather than allowing myself to explore and play with both energies, the dance of the masculine and feminine, the honoring of both, loving and embracing both, and knowing that they are both Divine, they are both essential, this led to the exploration and journeying into sacred union, shifting from separation and polarity to love of all, a deep devotion to love of all, love of self, love of all the energies that dance and intertwine within us.
 
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This is something we will explore more deeply inside The Embodied Woman…
You see masculine and feminine are not referring to Man & Woman, we all have both feminine and masculine energies flowing within us, and through finding sacred union within, we can find it without, in the external world, in our relationships, in motherhood, in business, where we allow space for both, feeling into when there is the impulse for action, inspired, aligned action via the magnetic pull, and when there is the magnetic pull to go within, to rest, to express, to be in stillness, to self-nurture,
This is the journey of the masculine and feminine, the dance between the two, it's not about finding some perfect balance, there is no such thing as different times, seasons and situations will require a unique combination, it's about building your muscle of discernment, reconnecting to your inner knowing, intuition, instinct, and expanding your ability to be with all that arises, to love all that arises, to play within both energies…
When you do this you open up to the magic of life, the magic of energy, the magic within you.
This is about loving all of you and calling upon the energies that will most serve and support you, your highest good and the highest good of all in each moment, in each situation, in each season…
Inside the embodied woman experience, we will support you to cultivate this within yourself, it will become your natural way of being.
 
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122: Awakening Your Inner Wild, Your Authenticity, & Coming Into The FULLNESS Of Your Expression, & Owning Your Wild Fire with Amberlee

In this episode, Amberlee and I explore the suppression and shaming of our fullest expression, specifically our expression of anger and rage. Exploring where this stems from and how the suppression of this sacred energy may be coming from a place of protection but is actually causing more harm.
Many of us suppress this emotion from a place of fear, the belief that if I express my anger/rage I will not be loved, accepted or belong. On a deep instinctual level, the expression of this emotion threatens our survival and so we hold it back.
In fact we hold ALL of it back, not just anger and rage but ALL of our expression, we dull ourselves down, holding it all in, trying to hold it all together, to stay composed, to maintain the good girl ways to fit in, to be loved, to belong.
But we never truly feel loved, accepted and the sense of belonging we crave... because we're not being our authentic selves.
This episode is about reclaiming your authenticity, fullness and expression, liberating yourself from the holding it altogether and embracing your inner wild, your expression, your magnificence.
 
 
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